✨Review✨The Buddha and the Borderline ~ Kiera Van Gelder

6/22/2021, 10:02:22 AM
✨Review✨The Buddha and the Borderline ~ Kiera Van Gelder The Buddha and the Borderline had been on my radar for a while now, but I mostly try and avoid books and research written about Borderline Personality Disorder because I find it triggering. But recently I’ve been gravitating towards it. I’m not sure why, it is probably out of need for comfort; to know that there are people out there willing to share their story. To feel like I’m not alone. And boy does Keira Van Gelder share her story. I am so so grateful to her for writing this book, it was published in 2013 with her experiences in the early 2000s and it strikes me as sad that not a lot has changed in terms of health professional stigma. Treatment wise and knowledge of BPD (especially the biological factors) have come far, but we still have a way to go. Van Gelder doesn’t hold back. If you want to know what it’s like to live with this illness then look no further. It was like she was writing about my life and symptoms (minus the romantic relationship parts, I avoid those like the plague). She talks about how the diagnosis fits but everyone around her tells her she doesn’t want to be “one of those”. She talks about recovery, and labels, and stigma, and symptoms. I felt less alone. That there are people willing to talk about living with this. That they’re willing to put a memoir into the world. It’s people like Keira who make me feel okay about talking about bpd. If you asked me a week ago if I thought recovery was possible I would’ve said no. No way, that’s not for me. But in the last week my definition of recover has changed, it isn’t the absence of symptoms. I believe I will go through my entire life with some of these things. Recovery is management. A sense of agency over my emotions. I can’t thank Kiera enough for writing her experiences and helping shape my thoughts. Eternally grateful for people who talk about mental illness, especially the less socially acceptable ones. And if they can do it in as eloquent and smart as this book, then that’s all I ever want to read for the rest of my life. CW: self harm, suicide, child sexual abuse, drug / substance abuse

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